It really turns me off. My husband has gained a very unattractive amount of weight. He tells me that people and their snide remarks to him about how she's 'a big girl' are hurtful to him and embarrassing. My husband is a very nice person and he loves me. "I felt she was ashamed of me," he said. He used to be slim and in shape, and now, he looks like a butterball. Gary says he started to feel he was invisible when they went to showbusiness functions together. It’s a real turn off for me, I’ve always liked him heavier, I would always rather a bit of extra fat on a man than not. We have been together for 7 years. He stepped on the scale the other day and he has gained 50 pounds! I told my boyfriend his being overweight turns me off. The problem is I feel guilty watching him fatten up and liking it. I think my kids do not respect me because my husband is constantly putting me down. When she was 13 years old, she had a dream of a fat woman wearing a crop top (i.e., a t-shirt or blouse with the lower portion cut off, resulting in … My husband and I have been married for five years — we got married young. Q. I am not physically attracted to my wife. I’ve told him that he’s getting too thin but he just says that I’m wrong and he’s lost fat and put on muscle from all his weightlifting. Let's say your husband thought you were overweight ( just as much as a health risk as smoking, if you don't believe me look it up). When we first met, he was just slightly overweight. When we were dating, he was 170 pounds. He was grossed out by your body while you were dating and thought you had a cute face so continued to see you and eventually married you because after the marriage he was going to tell you you had to lose the weight. “When I go to the gym and try to look my best it makes him very unhappy. My husband is getting fat. My husband is getting fat. ... She’s aware of the increased risks with no exercise, poor diet; her reasons for overweight. "She was always calling me fat and telling me she found my weight a turn-off." He gained 20 lbs the first year we were together, and the gaining weight process is never stopping. What do you do when you have absolutely no attraction to your husband? He’s kidding himself, he is skinny, and I don’t like it. Before we were married, he was real committed to losing weight and keeping it off, but at some point he gave up. My wife has become too fat for me. ... but with my husband over five years. At the time, he was a little bit overweight, but actively trying to lose it in an effort to better himself after a … Dennis: There are a couple sides to this issue. I met my boyfriend five years ago in college. She says she likes herself and is happy the way she is even though there’s a family history of heart disease and cancer. Simple gestures turn me on. The weight gain that proceeds may turn you off even more, contributing to the vicious cycle of withholding affection and support. “Every day my husband finds something he’s not happy about with me,” says Sue Ellen on How to Deal With a Husband Who Complains About Everything You Do. Wife’s excess weight turns off husband. Sarah would continually find fault with Gary, a strapping six-footer, particularly with his weight. My husband tells me continuously that men are much more visual than are women and that when what they see isn't pretty to look at, it immediately is a turn off.